Admin.... The Begging Has to STOP

[TattooedGirl]

I know that sometimes it is ok to be lax on the rules but this is retarded. I want to feel comfortable sitting in no pants and not being told to stand up ever two seconds. I KNOW this is a sex chat but damn can i not even sit down and chat ...really.... I know the mods  are only doing what they are told and lately they have be "taking it easy" but i am not a fan.

I dont know if other girls feel the same but if you do let me know

[Fay_Baybay]

I agree 100%. I cant get on with out getting...30+ PM. I block them, and they just come back in.
If there is anything you can do...please...do it D:

Tattoo <3

[heyitsmejudy]

I think all of us girls expect a little begging... it's just the nature of the beast, so to speak. But it has this past week been COMPLETELY over the top. And what's posted in the main is NOTHING compared to the sick twisted crap we get in PMs. And those have gotten worse too and I think it's just because the guys doing it are getting away with so much more crap in the main chat board that it's making them feel more comfortable sending all kinds of whack job PMs.
I am pretty thick skinned, and it's even starting to freak me out and make me uncomfortable.
There are girls who feel pressured to do something they're not comfortable doing and there are girls who get off on being begged. I think a lot of the chicks I know, though, are the kind who can handle it and are even flattered by it up to a point, then they are annoyed as hell by it and want it stopped. The policy used to be "if they wanna show, they'll show." Now it seems like it's "keep begging her, maybe you'll beat her into submission."
I don't want to come across as a bitch, but if try to just ignore it for the first 20 times something is posted in the main or asked in a PM that I just close out of, they think MAYBE the 21st time asking will convince you to plop out a boob. It's ridiculous.
I've never had a problem asking a mod to step in and they've always obliged.
Either it's a rule or it's not. But I ought to be able to go on cam and chat up my friends, FULLY CLOTHED, and not have some idiot post some of the crap they've gotten away with lately.
Quite frankly, I even chat back and forth with guy friends I've met here who are saying it's gotten out of control
I sincerely hope something can be done about it.

[redhead46]

Hmmm as a qualified "Lounge" lover.. lol I will just add to what these girls have been saying.  The lounge has women coming in now saying.."It is so nice in here..no begging and we can chat without all that rubbish going on etc..."

Well girls..when it is going on..just come into the lounge for a little while and join the rest of us in there.  It is mostly a nice place in there where many "regulars" meet and get a c hance for a really good chat without all that goes on in adult room.  I have even chatted to some guys lately who have said how bad the adult room is with all the begging that is going on..and they are guys!!

In defence of the mods, I must say that just lately if I have popped in quickly to ad ult for a sticky beak (Australian slang for a peek).. lol..to see if any of my fr iends are in there..I have noticed the mods laying down the law quite heavily regarding the "begging" Not sure how quickly people get banned after the  begging law is laid down (as I don't stay that long) but certainly I have seen it being enforced at times...Other times I have noticed not many mods in the room or only 1.  Maybe after being warned just once people should be "bounced" out the door for however long so they know they will get banned if they don't follow the guidelines and the rest of the guys will see thats what will happen if t hey don't  behave within t hose guidelines...

Hope something gets worked out soon so the ladies feel more comfortable...

[admin]

Ladies I do believe you have more control over the room and the flow of chat, than the mods do. If you turn your cam off and tell the people your not going to turn it back on till the begging or the PMs stop. I can almost guarantee the annoying person will stop also if you mention that persons name every male in the room will hound him.

[heyitsmejudy]

You obviously weren't there this morning when a girl said she'd show in 10 minutes if no one asked her to show anything for those 10 minutes. The boys couldn't even do that. Either someone new logged on and showed up who didn't know the "rules" or some jackass couldn't wait that long and blew it, so to speak, for the rest of them. It was actually pretty eye opening, not to mention a lot pathetic.
It's obvious to me, admin, what your goal is and the kind of person you seem to want to cater to. Disappointing, to say the least, but obvious.
And if we did what you're suggesting, call the guy out, I can make a guarantee of my own... either the guys will start a pissing match between themselves on the main chat board and go all keyboard commando, or they'll simply start dissing the chick, calling her all sorts of bitch, ugly, fat, you name it, and they'll move on to the next gal.
It's like you've never sat and watched them in action or something, honestly.
Quite frankly, I'm more offended by your attitude about the situation and the way you seem to simply NOT GET IT than I ever was at any of the cock-in-hand studs asking to see something.

[Mike54]

Admin:
a while back, you were testing a new board were members had to give someone permission to PM.  Was that http://adult-chat-city.com/chat/?

[A s h l e y]

Yea i agree with all the statements above it makes it really unbearable sometimes.

[admin]

[quote author=Mike54 link=topic=129.msg323#msg323 date=1249687478]
Admin:
a while back, you were testing a new board were members had to give someone permission to PM.  Was that http://adult-chat-city.com/chat/?
[/quote]


Yes MCC has a sister site ACC with a chat room that has 10 times the features of this one. For

free registered users you can PM with audio/video, draw, emotes, for users without cams you can upload

picks to main room or private. For the ladies you can accept or deny PMs or others from viewing your

cam. If you want to give it a try it's  http://www.adult-chat-city.com

[MissMandy]

This is a hard one, the begging can get a bit much..... but if you are showing what do you expect??  In the Adult room that is what the majority of the guys are there for!!  If you really dont want to show just ignore or use the block facility!!  I and a few other females have been here quite a while and have established ourselves and don't tend to get as much bother as some on here. Use the mods, that is what they are there for.  If you are looking for chat try the lounge where there is a no show rule and no hastle generally.  Also so many females come on and tease and like the compliments but get frustated at the beggers.  I think If you are going to show you need to be a little tougher and accept that not everyone is nice!!  Grow a thicker skin!

[TattooedGirl]

i just wanted to say thanks for all the replys.

it makes my day

[admin]

[quote author=MissMandy link=topic=129.msg328#msg328 date=1249749628]
This is a hard one, the begging can get a bit much..... but if you are showing what do you expect??  In the Adult room that is what the majority of the guys are there for!!  If you really dont want to show just ignore or use the block facility!!  I and a few other females have been here quite a while and have established ourselves and don't tend to get as much bother as some on here. Use the mods, that is what they are there for.  If you are looking for chat try the lounge where there is a no show rule and no hastle generally.  Also so many females come on and tease and like the compliments but get frustated at the beggers.  I think If you are going to show you need to be a little tougher and accept that not everyone is nice!!  Grow a thicker skin!
[/quote]
Very well said, Miss Mandy. By watching the way, you (and a few other ladies) can control a room. It's unbelievable, how much you have been begged and the way, you put a stop to it. The idea and point of my last post was ---The Ladies Rule the Room ---Obviously, some  (one) doesn't get it.

[Disturbed]

Well Guys It is a Lil bit confusing but there are many fucktards i wont say anything else 

[Odysseus]

My concern with asking the ladies to control, and police the beggers themselves is this...

They shouldn't have to. They didn't come here to have to do it.  They came to chat, have fun, whether that means they want to show or play or not.  And lets be clear (and I'm sure you'll all agree), if they are NOT showing.. they beg for them to show.  If they are teasing a little, they want them to show more.  If they are showing, they want MORE than whatever it is they are showing.  If they are completely "playing", then they beg for specific things.  There is never an end to it.

Isn't that what the mods are for?  To control that kind of thing?

I know many girls that I chat with tell me when they come in, and turn their cam on, they immediately get about a dozen PMs.  Should they really have to immediately have to start searching the user list, and blocking people?  And the biggest problem with that is, if they leave, or get booted, or the person(s) they block do, it loses it.  And they have to do it again.  If it "stuck", it would not be so bad.  (Yes, I know... it's the software.)

When girls do not answer PM, or do not reply to the people who are telling/begging.... The people get on their case.  Today, someone asked a girl specifically if she would show, and she said "no".  He then immediately said "why?"  She should not have to explain why.  Or have to start searching the user list to block him, if he continues.



Should we be a bit more lenient... yes.   But it's gotten out of control.  When the room is busy, and every 3rd line is someone asking/begging/telling a girl what to do, then thre IS no longer any chat, any conversation going on.

That's my two cents on it.

[heyitsmejudy]

Oh FTLOG... I assume I'm the some (one) your're talking about admin, even if there are more girls than myself who've posted similar opinions.
Lemme just say, I COMPLETELY agree if you come on cam with your tits propped up on your computer desk, you should expect to get treated like, well, a girl who comes on cam with her tits propped up on her computer desk. If the guys have seen your cooch so often they could recognize it in a lineup and they know it's only a matter of time before you bring it out to play, you might expect them to want to get you moving along a bit.
If, however, you say "I don't show" you shouldn't then be bombarded by PMs asking if that only means there and not in a "private room bb" or questions on the main asking "why not."
I'm not saying boot every dude who asks to see a boob. I'm saying going from saying "no begging" to "beg her to the point of where she's uncomfortable enough that she logs off or turns off her cam" is too big of a jump.
And on the issue of "thick skin" I repeat, mine is thicker than most. Anyone who knows me here knows I have no problem telling people to piss off. In fact... ah, nevermind.
And Ody: If I haven't said it enough already, lemme say again... you're the man. Now... take off your pants.